WTF!! Jalapeno Flavor Cheetos and Polo Jeans DO NOT MIX.

My wet and windy Saturday evening at the store (sales associate on weekends remember?)  I was looking so vintage Mad Men style. I love  my chameleon styles but keep it flirty & feminine. Though  my 2 1/2 inch stilettos was killing me,  I  slipped on my Melisa flats and kept  on servicing customers until........

Cheetos arrived.

Why did I call  him Cheetos? Because he arrived very HIGH and smacking on Cheetos. Who in the world comes to a department store after smoking I guess 3-4 blunts back to back and decides to shop for jeans? Cheetos did.  Cheetos, a Hispanic male comes up to me for  my assistance:

Cheetos: Doyhahwhere the Poulo pants are?
Me: What?
Cheetos (sigh): Do youuu know where the Pouloo--( mumbling)--at?
Me (getting a bit uncomfortable): Ohhhh yes, umm SouthPole jeans?
Cheetos ( getting a bit tired of repeating) POLO pantttttsssss (stares into the distance.)
Me  (almost about to ask what wrong until I seen he was high and have to stiffen a laugh): POLO PANTS??  (Now going into annoying Valley Girl mode)  YYYYESSS WE DO!!! We have an ArrrAAAAAYYY of US Polo jeans, (now blinking my eyes uncontrollable,  getting louder and shrill) OVER THERE!

Now being the type of person that I am, I detest drunks and high people. Why? Because long ago, when there wasn't a name called "binge drinking" people use to get tore down,  follow me and ask me the dumbest questions, trying to start shit or get extremely sexual in a stupid way. When  I realize that I do not want be around these folks that where I slid on my "thinking cap".  Instead of being  bothered by them, in my goofy crazy and slightly sadistic way, I mess with them. If  you pass out around me,  you'll  get full blown makeup on ya,  take  pictures and  have all of your friends laugh at you.  If you're high, I will take your food, call  your name quietly in the wind like a ghost and make up the worst story involving you and some type of vegetable that I can think of. One time, when I was  married, the ex-husband's cousin passed out on my couch plenty of time due to being high and drunk at the same time. Plus he was snoring," What a loser "I said.  So I took a two day old loaf of Italian bread, waited for the right moment to open his mouth REALLY wide and BAM! I smashed that crap down his throat (he wasn't happy)!! Of course I wanted him to wake up because he was really annoying and like I said I cannot stand extremely  drunk, rude, obnoxious, disrespectful alcoholic & weed smoking people.

Back  to  Cheetos, he stood there for an hour looking at three pairs of Polo jeans, then FINALLY went to try them on. The damn fool let his empty bag in the dressing room! GRRRRR. I was telling the ladies  that this dude was high and please laugh at this stupid ass. Even some of  my customers realized this! After staring and trying on these jeans, he placed them on the counter, I ranged them up. I kept the same shrilly irritating voice to mess  with his high. Then he forgot his debit card! Really?  He came back with the debit card (I thought the rain and wind swept him away)  and charged 83.30. Then wanted to look for sock and shirts.  So he did while I laughed and laughed away. When he didn't find what he was looking for he left.   I  was so glad he was gone!

Moral of the story:  I  don't care if Julio, Juan, Peter or any guy that smokes weed for "recreational' purposes,  you need  to STAY away from them. What if Cheetos leaving the parking lot, ran over a customer? Caused an accident? or worse putting those in danger on the highway?  I don't care if this person did this for shits  and giggles, he's  still a DBR  and a moron. "But Keeshia,  people that smoke weed don't do  harmful stuff cuz they forget." Yeah, tell me that wishy washy lie.  What if you chose this person  to  be the love of your life?  And you guys had  a baby? He's SUPPPOSE  to care for  his child, while you're running a quick errand,  he gets high  and accidently drops the baby. Do you find that funny? or ready to murq him?  He can't keep a job? He wanders aimlessly to (the department store that rhymes with gels) to look for jeans, spending your last dime? He wants to get high all the time and forgets quality time with you?  Your friends stop hanging  out with you guys because he's too 'blowed" to have normal conversations?  What if the weed is not strong enough and goes on to other harder drugs?  You'll be the judge.
*Keep on, find yourself broke, confused, hurt and trying to support him with NA meetings*

We've tried the sticky once upon a time either peer pressure, college parties and with pot head friends that was bored. If you haven't you're not missing a damn thing!  GOOD FOR YOU!  I'm going to be real,  Cheetos is a very cute guy but being high, eating his crunchie munchies, crumbs all over his mouth, he looked like a total dumbass. He embarrassed himself in the most degrading way by walking in by himself looking for jeans, under the influence. Oh yeah, if my co-worker's cop husband would have sauntered into the store, he would have gotten POPPED!  The law is the law and that's the same as coming into a store drunk as a skunk. If Cheetos shows up next Saturday while working, returning those jeans because he spent too much  on them, actually sober   this time, I will  still give him the same shrilly irritating voice and treat him hap-hazardously decent and slightly evil because of his behavior in the store.  Remember, first impression are important and that sucker blowed--pun  intended them out the water. Not just the respect  as a customer but blowing his chances with any single women that might find him attractive. I wouldn't dare get this dork's number for shit.

That's why Vetting  is important. If you can't stand a weed head even if he's non-bm, RUN! Alcoholic,  RUN!  In this piece  from DDR: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Black-Women-With-Other-Brothers/180996238697983?ref=hl/.  She points out the WBD=White Boy Drunk.  You do not know how many  WBD's that I have ran into and dated in the past. Oh my gosh! Can you say "total nightmare!"  They  are scary in the  most odd way and should be NOT tolerated, EVER! Don't even laugh and think you can handle this one because, you'll  will loose your  mind!  And for those who find the Hispanic men sexy and loveable (yes they are!) who do these ill behaviors, LEAVE THEM ALONE!  If  Hector doesn't drink but smoke that "dank", very unacceptable. Yes, I'm  not  hip with the drug lingo but if you know that smell and he's bathe in cologne to disguise it, hiding the fact he's a pot head;  you better learn the art of ninja--fast! POOF!

Black women, we come from  all  different walks of life, styles, education and all. We are not monoliths,but when seeking a quality mate from the global village, we must VET to utter importance.  I can't stress that enough especially to my Southern beauties. Life maybe slow like molasses in  the South but WE need to speed up the process to WAKE UP! If you all  ready have, you know tha deal. Hispanic men are a growing population here in the South and many do love bw's. But you gotta VET them just as well.  Please PLEASE PLEASE do not find the ones that hangs out with black male friends of the DBR nature. Black and  Hispanic culture is very close in similarities and you will mixed up!  Know the culture very well and not "hood rat" shit in the black and hispanic communities they pass off as "normal!!!"   Do not be that woman who doesn't date a bm but desire a hm and see the same bs that's in a DBR bm.  You still getting the same crap! Difference is the skin tone but the same bs behavior you dealt in a DBR bm is the SAME with a DBR hm!!!!!  That goes the same with the wiggers too.

Last night I thought about a guy,  Hispanic man, that I had  a mad crush on since he came to our school years ago. Didn't speak a lick of English, he learned, graduated and went on to college. I helped him with a couple of English term papers and I decided to let my feelings out. He felt the same way. We dated but me being stupid at the time, single mother and my  daughter's father nowhere in site  (DBR wm) he helped me with buying pull ups and milk. I said "I'm working, going to school and  I can do this." he said  " Doesn't matter because I understand because of  my  mother was in the same situation with me and my sister." He didn't have to but he did because he seen me and my daughter in his future after graduating college. He even told  me to stick around  because HE was going to change  my life and  his for the better. But  my dumbass was stuck on stupid because of  his lack sexual skills  (facepalmed and slapped myself many of times.)  My parents liked him, especially my mother, she adored him (he also served as a pallbear at her funeral.) My father who is straight 'ignit' and still is, welcomed him into his house and respected him.  I  had the finally say so in naming his baby sister at the hospital. Me!  Now he's married  to a hw and have an  adorable baby girl, a  present on Father's Day. See? I let a great guy go just because of stupid reasons. And when  I did have a greater chance of living  in a nice home in the suburbs of Dallas/Ft. Worth, enjoying  a quality life for me and my daughter,  marrying a QLL man  that I've know all  my life that going to love and cherish me for the rest of  my life. I blew it! A quality man that I let go in the wind. I don't kick myself in the face now but accept it as a well-learned lesson. I still talk to him  every once in a while, he's such a  good friend. His wife  is one lucky woman to have him.  Ladies, read and take  this story to heart because I'm sharing a personal one  with you.
Leave that swag, bling bling,  Air Force Ones, Long white T, grill-out, ice cream paint job, YOLO bs dude alone!!!!  He's not your type and trust me he can't do nothing for you but give you "hard dick and bubble gum"  antics. KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!!

*I'm still working on the fashion blog, takes time to compose the information!!

Love & Blessings!!

Excellent Sites and Facebook page!!!

Morning!!! More excellent sites and Facebook like pages to join:

http://www.facebook.com/BlackWomenDeserveBetter

Home site: http://blackwomendeservebetter.com/

http://www.swirlingandmarriage.com/pillars-of-salt-what-a-waste-of-time/

I  have a full day ahead starting  off with my morning green tea.
Have  a Happy Monday!! :)

Love & Blessings
K.

I love Star Trek but do I see Captain Kirk and the crew saving me??

I'm a big star Star Trek fan or Trekkie for short. Being in love with  Mr. Spock (hahha, you thought  I  was going to say Kirk), Mr. Sulu and Bones I loved these men for their intelligence and bravery on the show. Okay,  I was a bit smitten by Captain Kirk. Years later the revival of Star Trek franchise of TNG (The Next Generation)  with Captain Picard, Will Riker, Data, Warf, and Geordi. At first, I was not happy about  these new crew members because they couldn't compete with  the  old  cast but they won me over with the subject: The People & the stories.

The other night I was watching the ninth Star  Trek movie called "Insurrection." Not the most liked  movie but showed  me a  new light in the storyline. You should check it out, even if you're not a sci-fi fan  like  me.  Understanding the message in the movie shows how much the Bakkoo people, ditched the old ways of  thinking and welcome new ways to make sure peace, love and QUALITY living for EVERYBODY!!!

We've got realize that nobody isn't going to help  us, we have to band  together to  help each  other. Some are not on the mode with us, some need help and some will turn their backs against us. Believe in the powers that be, we are becoming a upward, mobile beautiful women that are desirable, loving, caring and marriage  /dating individuals. This isn't new but an actual fact.
http://elegantblackwoman.blogspot.com/2012/09/black-women-must-advertise-their-unique.html

I love this article and 200% co-signed, stamped and seal with love. Our lovely neighbor of the North puts it down like nobody's business.  I urge those who come across my blog, go check her out!

I read this a couple days  ago:  http://blackwomenwhitemen.wordpress.com/2012/01/20/should-you-be-skeptical-of-white-men-who-only-date-black-women/
*This will be the LAST link that  I will put up because of the way how the comments are negative, spun  out of control and major TROLLING!*

In my response to this, not really because if you vet men of different cultures who has a preference for black women.  The ONLY skepticism is if the guy, "want the "black experience", I heard that "black coochie" is  good so on and so forth. Meaning  you  need  to  run the hell  away from that type of person. That goes for Tyrone, Tito, Todd, Tzu-Chang and them who loves that "phat" azz only.

 One person said "  don’t understand what’s the problem with WM who only date BW. What’s wrong with a preference? BW are always shooting themselves in the foot. Have you ever heard a WW express caution about dating BM who only date WW? Doesn’t make any sense."

This  person  made the most  logical point and  there's more on here  who do that. But one lady that just kept spewing and spewing about how much wm treated her, blah blah and that she's perfectly happy with a bm. Good for her!!!  Nobody isn't knocking her down with her decision and preference but she's  trying to knock  those down  who do desire a QLL mate despite what shade he is.  I'm sorry  that  you  had such a crappy experience  in dating  IR  but  you  shouldn't  inject your harsh poisons to all  of your sisters.
 She also said " I'm black first and woman second."  Ummmm really? Think about it; when you was born did the ob/gyn whose handling your birth said "IT"S A BLACK GIRL?" NO!  S/he said "IT"S A GIRL!" The order is: Human being, gender and race but some bw view themselves as race, gender and human being.  Quit this" alien/superhuman" thinking! It's ridiculous! Only person that I know in comics (my dorkiness is showing) is Superman. He looked human (wasn't) and his race (Kryptonian.)  The power of the sun made him Superman/ Ka-El and his alter ego Clark Kent was acting human to blend it  with society.
I couldn't read anymore spewing defective comments, made my  head swim and I knew better. :/

You gonna let one person who had a bad experience decide your perception on dating  outside your culture?

 I  had that moment myself long ago after an incident at the hospital.  I had pains, throwing up bile and  food  turns out that  my gallbladder was acting  up and the stones moving around violently. I was  dating  a wm at the time and he acted an ass, looking around to see  if "any" of  his family or friends  knew  he was dating a bw. He thought I  was pregnant (we always had safe sex) before the doctor came to tell my prognosis. After finding out my gallbladder he still was on "dickhead" mode  (Excuse me for that). Sad ain't it? When something scary happens, his true colors come out, instead of being there and  making sure I was okay,  his fears got the  best of him.   After surgery  ( in another town) , he called to check up on me, I answered him short, terse words. After that,  I said  my good byes to dating men  that wasn't black.  That was 8 years  ago.  Do  you  know how much hurt  and  anger I  harbored towards  him?? A LOT!  Well going through a rotten marriage  and a the cusp of  separating from the ex  2 1/2 years ago, he found  me on Facebook, wrote me, called me and we talked about  it. He apologized!!!  I told him I'd already forgave him.  Nothing  but  love and  understanding. He wrote  me a  couple months back asking me  how was I doing and wishing  me nothing  but  the  best in life and the right guy will  come in my life soon because I DESERVE IT!

I  should  have been that bitter black woman/ Sistah Solijah and told  him that I don't want his apology, cussed him out and kept hating wm? Joining the masses of  the naysayers to keep our sistahs in check and keep hating 'de evil white man?' But that's not me. I have a kind heart, believe in the goodness of people. Mistakes happen, feelings are hurt but what can you do is to forgive yourself and  move on. Some can't do that but keep the pain, "the beast of burden" of why  and how come you can not move on just because of something terrible happened in your past. The same "authentic poison"  that keep bw's in pain now when naysayers throw up the 'de evil  white man'  mantra. 

Another instance, in  the last blog, "Another bites the dust" I went to a local popular bar about 30 minutes away after work. They had live music, playing groovy 70's, 80's and 90's cover songs, go  go dancers, singles and couples everywhere dancing. I gotten my drink, feeling the vibe  of the music. After bopping away, I had to use  the restroom. Before I came out of the stall,  two ww came in talking.  I nodded at them went to the sink, wash my hands.  
 Brunette: "Do  you REALLY need to use it??"
Blonde: "Naww, not  really, but you can  (catty attitude.)

At this moment, I  tuned  them out. Because it  was a Mean Girls-esque call out on  me.They wanted me  to  react  to  this. I didn't stink it up, 'tow" tha commode up, if  they sat after a black girl they have color on  their butts or anything. I was nicely dressed, mannered and gave them a nod of  being  friendly. I  could  have 'acted  black"  on  them but they do not know  that  I've  went to an  all white school and recognize this behavior.  If tha "sistah" came  out I would  have  ended up at the county jail across the street. They would have  won, I would have  lost. Never let fools get you and never give them the sadistic satisfaction!  So sad that grown women still act in 'remedial  jr/high  school' mode  ( and I  work in the school district!)  And these ww are in their mid- thirties (i'm 34)!! 


Sharing two stories about my experience,  I still date men from different cultures and talk  to them. One thing that I re-learned is VET VET VET  and trained in the deadly arts of common sense!!! LOL.  My  mother of late, recognized my  big heart and the power of kindness within me from a child. She reminded and harness that energy for  me  to  see personally. I'm one very  happy woman to have the women in my life, through bad and good influencing me either late catching or early  on to mold me to the person that I am!!

Today, I thought about  it:  Instead of IR dating, say dating because it is dating/marriage among human beings. I'm not too fond of labels, I wonder if I can rename my blog. But  I might  keep  it due to some that  are new to this; need a good laugh, enhanced & common critical thinking, a bit stern like Big Mama's information that will help, enlighten and broaden many many minds.

Next  week,  I'm going to do a fashion blog. I love  fashion, that's my  passion and major in college. My  grandfather is sick since Friday and doing well in the hospital. This weekend have been a major!!! 
Love and Blessing!!
K. :)

Insightful Reads and Critical Thinking!

What a helluva weekend! I worked  7 days straight! I'm tired but I gotta get back to work around 2pm  today  and afterwards wait for my daughter to come back from her volleyball game.


I have ran  across  a page on Facebook called: Black Women with Other Brothers.
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Black-Women-With-Other-Brothers/180996238697983

DDR, tickles me, most and IMPORTANTLY letting us fellow swirlers and newbies focusing on VETTING!

Betty Chambers website is a great one!
http://bettychambers.com/

Eugenia:
http://marriedgirlinaweirdworld.wordpress.com/

And of course  Ms Evia, Halima and Khadija
http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/2012/09/bwiimr-slice-yes-even-very-rich-bw-need-love-too-dont-let-the-political-become-personal.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+BlackFemaleInterracialMarriageEzine+%28Black+Female+Interracial+Marriage+Ezine%29

http://sojournerspassport.com/<----Recommend her book too!! A must read!!!

http://dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com/

For all  my Southern black women that are still in the "woods" or coming out of the woods, please read the knowledge. Knowledge is power and knowing  that it's a useful tool, for your aspect of life. You  know the horror, see it and may have dealt with it. Never too late for change and heal.

Being a long time swirler and was married to a DBR bm due to poorly vetting skills, I know what I'm talking about.  Truth do set you  free but the truth hurts  like hell!!! Lies are pretty, sugar coated to make you feel comfortable, stay in your place and never question the alternative.

Also read about the online players; Online dating is great but they're are cyber players.  I have 'met' a couple and wasn't worth my time.  Take the time to screen  BW/WM IR chat rooms and social pages carefully. I have deleted myself from at least 5 this year do to DBR's and attacking on bw's.  Do not be fooled with the wigger types either. If you wanted to date a wigger then why not a black man? I never was and remotely attracted  to wiggers, Yep I said it "Wiggers!" Until one time after a bad breakup, I've gotten with a wigger (rebound) and it's the worse.  Any DBR non-black man that wants to act with swag, hip-hop, gangstaish, thuggish, a member of the ABC crew and tries to "fit" into so called black culture , trying to "holla at a sista" you need to send his ass packin back to Blackistan.   If you want to do the wigger types be my guest, because I do not support those guys  in  any fashion. <-----My skin crawled.

Anyhoos, its time for me to leave for work!

Have a wonderful safe and blessed week!!!

Alphas & Betas in my soup?

I have a long weekend ahead of me and I know Sunday night I'm not going to do ANYTHING!
Labor Day is around the corner. I might go to Hobby Lobby and purchase some fabric to take a stab at making a blazer for the fall.

Do you know the difference in Alpha and Beta males?

In the existence of mankind, the male species hunt, gathered and protected his family from all harms. He knows how to take charge and own it. Very responsible of his actions, well though-out through his peers, community and family. Alphas & Betas are strong in the retrospect of the male. You many have came across an Alpha being extremely charming, take charge, slightly arrogant and magnetic. The Beta is intelligent, friendly, take charge and someone you can open your emotions too. To put it in a simpler sense, the Alpha is the school quarterback and the Beta is the nerd. Nothing wrong with pining for these types when you find great qualities within. But there's another one, the Loser-Beta that is a poser for the "Alpha Male" breaking it down as the Damage Beyond Repair man or DBR.

This article explains it ALL! Much props to Toni for this article. :)

http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/return-of-the-beta-disguised-as-alpha-a-word-on-passive-aggressive-losers/

Yes, I WAS married to a passive aggressive loser tries to disguise himself as an Alpha male. I'm not cringing because I've been over it but as a warning to bw's that are finding love & marriage, rely on your intuition and ALWAYS use those VETTING SKILLS! You may know some in your family, work, friends, friends of friends, neighbor and so on. They will do anything to make you feel so good inside and out but when it comes times for the REALNESS, they will put you down without a notice. The ex-husband had a GOOD front, I mean perfectly crafted! They will do stuff in the beginning to SHOW you that they're a great catch but after trapping you, that's where the REAL HORROR HOUSE FUN STARTS! The image of Pennywise is well fitted. Genius! :)

 DBR's & losers are incapable of loving a woman, showing affection, being fathers & husbands, irresponsible and cannot manifest the fact that they're grown adult men. Grown adult men who have common sense, intelligence and know themselves will and NOT devolve in this type of behavior. They know its toxic, not worth the time and not programmed into them in any shape, fashion, form and idea. They also do not beat on their chest, sizing up a man, woman or child AND THE WORLD, broadcasting "I'm a good man! I got a penis and two balls and some hair surrounding that area."

 Narcissism is the most foul creature that walks the earth today. This creature can wreck havoc among others. I remember an argument during my marriage with the ex husband and in the mist, I called him a narcissist, egotistical shithead without the common knowledge of knowing his ass from the hole in the ground. Dumbfounded by this new drop in vocabulary and the meaning, hence he didn't pay attention in high school English class, he stopped dead in his tracks and asked me what did that mean? I watched Narcissism and him having a deep conversation.

Narcissism: "OH SHIT!!, she founded us out!"
Ex hub: (scratching his head nervously) "WHAT WE GONNA DO!!!!"
Narcissism: "QUICK! I have came up with a crafty plan, play dumb!"
Ex hub: (frantically searching for a object to fixate to avoid her stares) "I already did that! Come on! You can do better. Knowing her she already figured us out a year ago."
Narcissism: " I guess we leave and drink Jim Beam over our cousin's house. That escape route usually works and we can cuss her out, throw stuff at her and come back later. Blame Fox News and the economy for why we can't do better, be a family man, and there for the children. Oh yeah and the house is haunted, the reason why we stay up late watching T.O and Ochocinco. DAYUM!! that Mezkin chick is FIIOOONNEEE!!"
Ex hub: "Thanks pal! You're a lifesaver!"
Narcissism: "No prob, we in this together,FOREVER!" (invisible daps.)


You can see that the passive aggressive losers is a void draining your well-being, time, mentality and life. I threw my trash away long ago & wised up. My well being shot up A LOT! Only thing, I deal with through him is our son. 99% of whatever he says is crap that's extremely ignored and 1% he is serious about our son. I recognize these types of DBR's and losers and RUN away like Flo Jo but its up to YOU to hone those vetting skills and use them wisely.

"It" still scares me.

Happy Labor Day everyone!!!!

Another one bites the dust......

This week have been hectic due to kids going back to school, work and all other junk but I'm taking it easy because I'm not going to push myself hard because I have to take care of myself.

Another one bites the dust:

I've corresponded with a guy in my area for a whole week. On one dating site, he contacted me and let me know that my profile is 99% compatible with him. Funny, intelligent and friendly, we hit it off until it was time to meet face to face. Welp, he blew me off. The first thing is that he wasn't interested in the first place and putting on a front. Two, I think the whole thing about dating another woman from a different culture other than his and Asian gave him cold feet because that SHIT got real as hell. And third, he's an asshole. To write people off and never explain why, shows how much he has respect for women in general. His lost not mine. I politely wrote to him that is a sign of disrespect not to show consideration to the other person's time. I deleted his number and email all together. You can say, the Creator is watching carefully over me. Understanding this, I'm better off and not finding disappointment down the road.
Though he's Buddhist, I guess Buddha isn't gonna bless him anytime soon. LOL.

When you have DBR's and doubters and such, shut the door forever. They have no VALUE whatsoever to a woman. Being raised and living in the South, we run into those so much that it shuts us down, where we become the DOUBTERS in ourselves. What I mean by that, is we doubt, am I pretty enough? did I say something wrong? is he attracted to me? why did he do that? The list goes on and on. That's why self-esteem is important!!! High self-esteem will kick in to tell you that you're not ugly,fat, crazy or whatever. High self-esteem will zone in to let yourself know that you are you and that you're created in a highly manner that separates you from others. Individualism stands out better than cookie cutter people. Knowing yourself worth will attract a QLL man that KNOWS he's doing GOOD for himself. He wouldn't care what people think about, he knows that he with the most gorgeous, loving, caring woman on the whole planet and nothing else matters. Being yourself around your family, friends, associates and the world will attract people that can ACTUALLY SEE that you're human.

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This "person" went all through the motions of "careful" research to once again, put the black woman under a microscope and find everything wrong with her. This makes me laugh to the FULLEST! Instead of finding common DNA strains that causes cancer,AIDS and other life-threatening diseases to help EVERYONE, he simply took a dumbass chances to post stupidity. Folks, this man is a moron and there are morons who are going to read this and RUN WITH IT! This is a naysayer, doubter, woman hater and racist DBR man. Inflicted his small minded stupidity into a "intelligent" article because he's part of the science world. Bah! Really? Mighty strange that most bw's are educated, intelligent, beautiful, accomplished, marrying wm/non-black men from different cultures, and living well. All I gotta say: Black women keep it up! Laugh freely and prove these people wrong without explain a DAMN thing. These people do not know you on a daily basis and keep REACHING into the abyss to put you down. When you make people mad like this, they will come up with EVERY AMMUNITION to shoot you down.

My Southern Black women, continue to do EVERYTHING freely! Yeah those who are still trying to rehash the Ghosts of the South, will and ALWAYS fail miserably since the Civil War. Not only those who are soooo proud of the South( proud of the wrong things) but those DBR bm that keeps that invisible shackle to remind you of those ghosts.

Last time I checked, dead people stay forever in the grave.

Dating websites and SUPPORT bw's.

How many of you guys are on dating websites? Two? Five? or none? I'm on a couple myself. I've joined Match.com last month and suffice to say, a wink and two emails. I don't give up easily and knowing there's someone out there for me. But why so hard?

Maybe because someone whispered negative remarks and tortes to wm/nonblack men about black women? Maybe some have diaherra of the mouth when it comes to opening up the conversation? or none of the above.

I take this into consideration that it's kinda hard to date but being optimistic about dating and such is no brainer. For one, I'm getting back into the dating world and ready to have fun and later a relationship down the road with a QLL man. Just one MAN not a lot. Two, I've opened myself, not being a mystery about who I am but a fun, loving, honest WOMAN. Not just a "black" woman but a WOMAN! Which comes into the term of "preference." I've always been an open minded, loving and joyful individual but you have those who can't see this due to society's views on bw's.

My preference is a man who have great qualities about themselves. I have no quarrels about what culture they're from. I love a good looking man no doubt from every part of the world but the getting to the nitty gritty is how that man is going to treat you and cherish you in his lifetime. Well all have our pet peeves, idiosyncrasies, turn on's and off's but what's the core of wanting a quality person in your life?

For all my country bw's that live in rural areas, it does seem that we've are at the end of the brick road. But we're not. Gotta take chances and risks, smart one at that to let your light shine. Some of you may complain about Tyrone and Jamal not acting right but Tyrone and Jamal isn't thinking about you. Which leads to this the other night on a Facebook social group that I've joined.


SUPPORT SUPPORT YOUR FELLOW BW!!

A young lady posted a comment that was made by a DBR bm about her preference. Point blank, he said as I remember " They brainwashed you to think that a white man will love you and white men are wimps to deal with black women." An appalling comment and few seconds later while listening to Ellie Goulding, I had to come in and support my fellow bw about this "poison." And what poison indeed. She's in a relationship with a wm and have a child but for a DBR bm to say this to her, he doesn't know her and trolling, trying to tear her spirit. She reported him and they deleted his account. AWESOME! But the mainly, the emotional helpful support from US, black women to pick our sister up. Even the white men in the group supported HER! The sting of this jr. high remedial moron still injected his venom into this woman. Unaware, unannounced, he struck her like a snake. I urge for my beautiful black women not to indulged into conversations with men of this nature. He was pissed because he felt, her being a black woman that he can do whatever and say whatever to her. True there are black men that have great upstanding raising and respectful and WILL defend black women when being attacked, critiqued and criticized. I applauded these men to the upmost because they know this AND SUPPOSE TO DO THIS. But there are damaged, broken men who will do their best to stamp out our spirit. For what? To see if there's a "loyal sista" that will do and bend over backwards for a "brotha." I don't see too many "brothas" that are protecting black women. Have you seen a bm that's going out with a ww/hw/aw showing her off proudly? And then when you're dating your wm/nonblack man showing you off proudly, the bm have steam come out of their ears? Because you're dating a man whom chose YOU and not a brotha? Hmmmmmm.... Seems he have a problem with you and you not having a problem with him. That's ass backwards. So if you have an aunt, sister, cousin, a friend, mom or even you who dates IR or in a relationship, support her. She gonna catch flack for it but be there for her. When you have the love and support from a stable emotional group, the outlook is better and you're going to excel. One cannot save everybody but as a team, we can build that network, STRONG network where nothing can harm us in any fashion, idea or form.

So next time when Tyrone and Jamal, trying to put pressure on you on why you're not attracted to him, don't argue with the fool, tell him ONE TIME and RUN like the wind. Cuz they want a jr. high kiddie fight with you. Digress in this, you will LOSE and cut your LIFEFORCE down to a trickle.