The FINAL COUNTDOWN to MOVING!

It's coming to a good close. The moving process is happening as we speak! My cute couch is shipped, got

my table, stuff in boxes and ready to roll out.  I was a bit depressed for a while because my son is already gone with his dad. The thought hit me and couldn't do nothing but cry and laid shiftless in bed. I still did some awesome things with him and notice how clingy he became when the thought of not being around mom like everyday.  At first, I was like "why are you hanging on to me like a toddler?" Thought about it, he's going to miss me like crazy and wants to enjoy every moment with mom and sister. He too, was going through stuff also like me. I became moody and he turned clingy.   We, as adults, sometimes do forget about our little ones' feelings. We was once children also.  But children are brave, smarter they may not express their emotions in complete thoughts but their actions show.  I didn't want to pack the rest of his clothing up because I wanna hold on, he grew inside me, birth him, still raising and loving him.  Separation is hard for anyone but he's brave. Haven't called him yet but I will this week. And the fact his father, ex-husband aka Lucifer threw a fit about me being the last resort to pick my kid so he can go to work. Being summon for jury duty that means I wasn't available, leaving stupid immature messages means eye rolls and laughter on my part.

First, when you are working and have children always have a baby-sitter, caring relative or a trusted friend to MAKE SURE that your child is cared for when going to work. It's common sense. I worked from the evenings to night with two children. I have my dad to watch my children. Dad is the real human Oscar the Grouch but he made sure that nothing doesn't happen to them and do trim his schedule to get them off the bus. The kids stayed with me at times at work and helped me clean the school, bought them food and took them home so they can get their baths and rest. Its' called parenting! Very lucky to work at a school to have this privilege.

Second, You asked for him. When this conversation took place months ago, you had plenty enough time to get arrangements of your life to incorporate his. You can not worm your way out!  Remember, you created him just the same as I did. No if's and's or but's.

Finally, its called parenting. There's no part-time, 3/4's, or sometimes. Parenting is full time!! Just because we are divorce, you're still his father. Our time is over...waaaayyyy over for almost 3 years now. Get over it! Focus on your children. Some adults are still wanna play like kids and think everyone is going to do it for them. Parenting is not easy but it can be enjoy.

Okay, enough venting, missing my son like crazy.

Should have brought a book, instead of sulking.

Yesterday I got stood up, suppose to meet up (not a date) for coffee at the local town coffee house. We agreed on this arrangement and he never showed up. Curling up with a good book from Anais Nin and orchestra music, I left a nice message on his phone and told him good luck and its not nice to waste a person time.  Went to the fabulous Italian restaurant had a great meal. He called back with some story, I don't know if true or not but a simple text or call earlier that day could have saved you. Not cool to keep a lady waiting and wasting her precious time.  My time is precious at every second. He wanted a reschedule, nope as I let him know for the second time, you had your chance.  When a guy isn't that into you, keep moving on! There's millions of guys in the world and one isn't gonna make me second guess myself into feeling something is wrong with me. Something is wrong with you for not up holding a commitment made. Men can be jerks but this jerky jerk isn't gonna slow me down at the least.



He said " I keep dating crazy white women." Umm maybe you need to change your dating habits and

Remind me not to get Coke next time.

why this have to do with me? I don't care, not my fault you're not of sound good judgement and character.  I know the men around here are spread very thin with quality and seems these guys like to tell you about shitty dating habits when your keeping it light and breezy. When did conversations of talking about your crazy dating life become the norm?  I wanna know about you, not some crazy ass chick who did you wrong. Ugh..I make it my point not to talk about my ex-husband when meeting a guy. A guy who goes on in this manner, usually these dudes get  NNEEXXTTT'D!!

Quality is better than quantity.

Ladies do not be swayed by the thirst nor put yourselves in the thirsty position. Take up hobbies, new interests, meet ups in your town with groups, getting to know yourself too. Trust your gut, don't give them a second, third or fourth chance. Their impression isn't great at the beginning, keep moving.  In the words of Sweet Brown "Ain't nobody got time for that!"  Newly divorced, single whatever your worth is important!
I'm still learning as we speak, turn on the bullshit blockers to level RED but also keep enjoying your life.  

Keep it light, breezy and float like a butterfly.
And you may have to change your choice of beverages too....:)

Reality tv have went too far with ignit folks who want FAME!

Lawd jesus this needs to be set on fire and sent back to the depths of  Mordor!

This crack of shit called "The Real Babymommas of Richmond" shows how real baby mommas of Richmond throw down ignit style. 

Coon and minstrel shows of this type needs to be STOP, dropped kick'd and a Mortal Kombat finishing fatality move is the answer.  I do not watch tv due to trash shows only Hulu and Netflix programming but people are reaching into the wild yonder on Youtube to promote shit.

These women do not realize how many people are watching them, laughing and making fun of their lives on camera. Stooping so low to call themselves "baby mommas."  But when you have low self esteem, two or more children, never been married, cackling about other people, trying to live 'ghetto' fabulous then I guess you are what you are.  Then your children are showcased in this buffoonery.  Ma'am, you have no respect for your children.  

One thing these smart women do not realize is the image they set for black women in America.  Truly they must feel that are "setting the best" representation of black woman, telling their baby momma woes, going out to the club, what kind of hair to get at the Korean hair store or how this "kneegrow" is five months behind in child support payments but he can lay the pipe down.

The coonery of these people continue to seek and destroy whatever to claim fame.  

“All my skinfolk ain’t kinfolk.” - Zora Neale-Hurston

Thank You Zora!

Call me an "elitest" I do not care. I live my life normal: caring for my children, worrying about how they do well in school, bills, what's for dinner?, choosing car insurance so I can save 15%, co-parenting with Lucifer the ex-husband, budging a check book and so on... Normal and boring. Much simple, no drama and peace.

Gladly, I do not live in Richmond,VA.  And to those wonderful residence of Richmond who lead boring normal lives, my condolences are with you.

Wallpapering is serious business!

Omigosh, this is cray!

Been busy for the past couple of weeks, cleaning and redecorating my new home. Wallpapering is not for the faint of heart. It's not fun, tedious, irritating and straight up not for me.  As you can see, this is HALF of the wall to do. Good thing its not big space to fill but dangit! Quite irritated with the WHOLE process. From the second sheet, you can see I gave up but I kept going. Even the motifs are almost perfect but not lining up well. This where a good- looking, nice muscles, nice ass (lol) slightly shirtless home improvement guy should have dropped in and helped me. Lo and behold my kids are with me. They seen every expression, sweat and hear every unnameable word that came out of my mouth that day! My daughter helped and seem she took a digress learning experience of wallpapering. Glad she liked the painting and putting contact paper on the counters.

She did a great job with the painting. We chose a grey-tone purple that wouldn't look too feminine but the neutrality of the color ties the counter, floor and cupboards.  Now super excited as we "speak" my coffee table came in.  I'm designing on a budget and using my imagination to get the best of our my money and making my home a home.  Speaking on that, good gracious! Home Depot and the hotties!!!  The last time trekking to Home Depot is when I was married. Now single, cruising to the hardware store for the house in on my list.  I may have came overdressed but didn't care, I was looking for supplies for the home.  Why does my daughter give me a weird look and side eye when muttering "dayum, he's hot."  She can't stand it. Sorry honey but mom is still young, healthy and attractive. Am I suppose to frown up and say yuck? At least it wasn't out loud and desperate. LOL. I told her I can't help it, in my nature. The fact wearing an off-shoulder Victoria's Secret summer dress does the trick when out of the blue, HD employees ask you if needing an assistance. One scared my daughter when saying hello in a booming, chirpy voice. And this is a teenager who doesn't pay attention, listening to her IPod doesn't matter if a fire breaks out on top of her head; failing to put it out, this guy broke her trance. He even gave my son a high five when he put his hand out. My kids, my kids!

I didn't  flirt but kept smiling, looking nice and shopped for what I needed. Seeing my daughter's eyes narrow is the sign of a guy checking me out.  Poor girl, doesn't she know they can look but not touch? She thinks guys aren't suppose to look at mom no matter what. Baby girl, got a long life ahead of her!!!

By next week we'll move in after the tests my daughter have to take after summer school. Super psyched about the sci-fi/horror party this week.  Meet-up groups are popping and springing about and what a perfect way to meet new people.  Fill this summer up with group meet ups of your favorite hobbies/interests.  Been friggin hot in Texas this month and rain didn't help shit but bring out more bugs and snakes. The bugs I don't care as long its outside but snakes....now that's a different story!

Next few weeks, Kountrysoulgirl will be out on a short hiatus. See you back in mid-July.

Have a wonderful, fun and safe summer! :)
Remember ladies, Hardware stores!!! Don't wanna hear stalker stories while breathing heavily in the plumbing section.

Nay no my brotha, dingaling pictures must go! Cappa tow!

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Mr. Creepy: Here are a few more pics to liven up your Friday.

Me: Wow and to think that you seem very nice, good head on your shoulders and interesting to meet pretty soon but NOPE!

You had me with the first email but that those are too much Dave  creepy.

If you would have played your cards right and get to know each other with conversation, fun and everything, now this would happen in real time down the road.  

I thought adult men with better common sense existed around here only to see the "famous penis pic" in my email.

You are good looking but damn you messed that up though I give you that but not your girl here, sorry.

Have a great life Dave creepy.


My actual personal/dating ad:

Can't believe I'm doing this

Wonder if I caught your attention with the title. Divorced, black female, 30's, two children, attractive and petite. 
I like reading, an avid cinephile, into sci-fi, fantasy and horror. Jam out to Depeche Mode, Rammstein, DJ Fei Fei and a bunch of artists that so hard to think of right now. Enjoy traveling, wine tasting, art galleries and museums. I embrace and love my inner dorkiness and awkwardness too. Do have tattoos about nine of them, cool afro and a nice smile. 

Looking for a nice guy with common sense, a pique to try new things, interesting hobbies and pretty much like minded like me but with some different taste. I do have a preference: white, asian, middle eastern and hispanic. Sorry, not explaining what I like but those are my preferences. Age: 32-46 at least. Must work out or keep yourself in healthy shape with any outdoor activities. Non-smoker preferred but if you're trying to quit that's wonderful. I have no quarrels with your religious and political preference, just as long you do not try to coax me to switch or demonize my opinions. I respect your views and the same with mine and do enjoy conversations ranging from random silliness to serious intense and thought provoking. Not that intense...:) Manners are important as well. 

A date should be fun to get to know each other not, drudgery. 
Enter" Real Face to Face meet up" in the title box
Under NO circumstances: I do not respond to catfish, friends with benefits, NSA, married men and separated men. Thirstiness is not accepted either so keep on moving forward.
I don't do the chasing, men do chasing not women. 
Until then, see ya soon :)
Ciao.

Does that sound like an invite for a random dick picture??? LOL

Have a great week!