Excellent Sites and Facebook page!!!

Morning!!! More excellent sites and Facebook like pages to join:

http://www.facebook.com/BlackWomenDeserveBetter

Home site: http://blackwomendeservebetter.com/

http://www.swirlingandmarriage.com/pillars-of-salt-what-a-waste-of-time/

I  have a full day ahead starting  off with my morning green tea.
Have  a Happy Monday!! :)

Love & Blessings
K.

I love Star Trek but do I see Captain Kirk and the crew saving me??

I'm a big star Star Trek fan or Trekkie for short. Being in love with  Mr. Spock (hahha, you thought  I  was going to say Kirk), Mr. Sulu and Bones I loved these men for their intelligence and bravery on the show. Okay,  I was a bit smitten by Captain Kirk. Years later the revival of Star Trek franchise of TNG (The Next Generation)  with Captain Picard, Will Riker, Data, Warf, and Geordi. At first, I was not happy about  these new crew members because they couldn't compete with  the  old  cast but they won me over with the subject: The People & the stories.

The other night I was watching the ninth Star  Trek movie called "Insurrection." Not the most liked  movie but showed  me a  new light in the storyline. You should check it out, even if you're not a sci-fi fan  like  me.  Understanding the message in the movie shows how much the Bakkoo people, ditched the old ways of  thinking and welcome new ways to make sure peace, love and QUALITY living for EVERYBODY!!!

We've got realize that nobody isn't going to help  us, we have to band  together to  help each  other. Some are not on the mode with us, some need help and some will turn their backs against us. Believe in the powers that be, we are becoming a upward, mobile beautiful women that are desirable, loving, caring and marriage  /dating individuals. This isn't new but an actual fact.
http://elegantblackwoman.blogspot.com/2012/09/black-women-must-advertise-their-unique.html

I love this article and 200% co-signed, stamped and seal with love. Our lovely neighbor of the North puts it down like nobody's business.  I urge those who come across my blog, go check her out!

I read this a couple days  ago:  http://blackwomenwhitemen.wordpress.com/2012/01/20/should-you-be-skeptical-of-white-men-who-only-date-black-women/
*This will be the LAST link that  I will put up because of the way how the comments are negative, spun  out of control and major TROLLING!*

In my response to this, not really because if you vet men of different cultures who has a preference for black women.  The ONLY skepticism is if the guy, "want the "black experience", I heard that "black coochie" is  good so on and so forth. Meaning  you  need  to  run the hell  away from that type of person. That goes for Tyrone, Tito, Todd, Tzu-Chang and them who loves that "phat" azz only.

 One person said "  don’t understand what’s the problem with WM who only date BW. What’s wrong with a preference? BW are always shooting themselves in the foot. Have you ever heard a WW express caution about dating BM who only date WW? Doesn’t make any sense."

This  person  made the most  logical point and  there's more on here  who do that. But one lady that just kept spewing and spewing about how much wm treated her, blah blah and that she's perfectly happy with a bm. Good for her!!!  Nobody isn't knocking her down with her decision and preference but she's  trying to knock  those down  who do desire a QLL mate despite what shade he is.  I'm sorry  that  you  had such a crappy experience  in dating  IR  but  you  shouldn't  inject your harsh poisons to all  of your sisters.
 She also said " I'm black first and woman second."  Ummmm really? Think about it; when you was born did the ob/gyn whose handling your birth said "IT"S A BLACK GIRL?" NO!  S/he said "IT"S A GIRL!" The order is: Human being, gender and race but some bw view themselves as race, gender and human being.  Quit this" alien/superhuman" thinking! It's ridiculous! Only person that I know in comics (my dorkiness is showing) is Superman. He looked human (wasn't) and his race (Kryptonian.)  The power of the sun made him Superman/ Ka-El and his alter ego Clark Kent was acting human to blend it  with society.
I couldn't read anymore spewing defective comments, made my  head swim and I knew better. :/

You gonna let one person who had a bad experience decide your perception on dating  outside your culture?

 I  had that moment myself long ago after an incident at the hospital.  I had pains, throwing up bile and  food  turns out that  my gallbladder was acting  up and the stones moving around violently. I was  dating  a wm at the time and he acted an ass, looking around to see  if "any" of  his family or friends  knew  he was dating a bw. He thought I  was pregnant (we always had safe sex) before the doctor came to tell my prognosis. After finding out my gallbladder he still was on "dickhead" mode  (Excuse me for that). Sad ain't it? When something scary happens, his true colors come out, instead of being there and  making sure I was okay,  his fears got the  best of him.   After surgery  ( in another town) , he called to check up on me, I answered him short, terse words. After that,  I said  my good byes to dating men  that wasn't black.  That was 8 years  ago.  Do  you  know how much hurt  and  anger I  harbored towards  him?? A LOT!  Well going through a rotten marriage  and a the cusp of  separating from the ex  2 1/2 years ago, he found  me on Facebook, wrote me, called me and we talked about  it. He apologized!!!  I told him I'd already forgave him.  Nothing  but  love and  understanding. He wrote  me a  couple months back asking me  how was I doing and wishing  me nothing  but  the  best in life and the right guy will  come in my life soon because I DESERVE IT!

I  should  have been that bitter black woman/ Sistah Solijah and told  him that I don't want his apology, cussed him out and kept hating wm? Joining the masses of  the naysayers to keep our sistahs in check and keep hating 'de evil white man?' But that's not me. I have a kind heart, believe in the goodness of people. Mistakes happen, feelings are hurt but what can you do is to forgive yourself and  move on. Some can't do that but keep the pain, "the beast of burden" of why  and how come you can not move on just because of something terrible happened in your past. The same "authentic poison"  that keep bw's in pain now when naysayers throw up the 'de evil  white man'  mantra. 

Another instance, in  the last blog, "Another bites the dust" I went to a local popular bar about 30 minutes away after work. They had live music, playing groovy 70's, 80's and 90's cover songs, go  go dancers, singles and couples everywhere dancing. I gotten my drink, feeling the vibe  of the music. After bopping away, I had to use  the restroom. Before I came out of the stall,  two ww came in talking.  I nodded at them went to the sink, wash my hands.  
 Brunette: "Do  you REALLY need to use it??"
Blonde: "Naww, not  really, but you can  (catty attitude.)

At this moment, I  tuned  them out. Because it  was a Mean Girls-esque call out on  me.They wanted me  to  react  to  this. I didn't stink it up, 'tow" tha commode up, if  they sat after a black girl they have color on  their butts or anything. I was nicely dressed, mannered and gave them a nod of  being  friendly. I  could  have 'acted  black"  on  them but they do not know  that  I've  went to an  all white school and recognize this behavior.  If tha "sistah" came  out I would  have  ended up at the county jail across the street. They would have  won, I would have  lost. Never let fools get you and never give them the sadistic satisfaction!  So sad that grown women still act in 'remedial  jr/high  school' mode  ( and I  work in the school district!)  And these ww are in their mid- thirties (i'm 34)!! 


Sharing two stories about my experience,  I still date men from different cultures and talk  to them. One thing that I re-learned is VET VET VET  and trained in the deadly arts of common sense!!! LOL.  My  mother of late, recognized my  big heart and the power of kindness within me from a child. She reminded and harness that energy for  me  to  see personally. I'm one very  happy woman to have the women in my life, through bad and good influencing me either late catching or early  on to mold me to the person that I am!!

Today, I thought about  it:  Instead of IR dating, say dating because it is dating/marriage among human beings. I'm not too fond of labels, I wonder if I can rename my blog. But  I might  keep  it due to some that  are new to this; need a good laugh, enhanced & common critical thinking, a bit stern like Big Mama's information that will help, enlighten and broaden many many minds.

Next  week,  I'm going to do a fashion blog. I love  fashion, that's my  passion and major in college. My  grandfather is sick since Friday and doing well in the hospital. This weekend have been a major!!! 
Love and Blessing!!
K. :)

Insightful Reads and Critical Thinking!

What a helluva weekend! I worked  7 days straight! I'm tired but I gotta get back to work around 2pm  today  and afterwards wait for my daughter to come back from her volleyball game.


I have ran  across  a page on Facebook called: Black Women with Other Brothers.
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Black-Women-With-Other-Brothers/180996238697983

DDR, tickles me, most and IMPORTANTLY letting us fellow swirlers and newbies focusing on VETTING!

Betty Chambers website is a great one!
http://bettychambers.com/

Eugenia:
http://marriedgirlinaweirdworld.wordpress.com/

And of course  Ms Evia, Halima and Khadija
http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/2012/09/bwiimr-slice-yes-even-very-rich-bw-need-love-too-dont-let-the-political-become-personal.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+BlackFemaleInterracialMarriageEzine+%28Black+Female+Interracial+Marriage+Ezine%29

http://sojournerspassport.com/<----Recommend her book too!! A must read!!!

http://dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com/

For all  my Southern black women that are still in the "woods" or coming out of the woods, please read the knowledge. Knowledge is power and knowing  that it's a useful tool, for your aspect of life. You  know the horror, see it and may have dealt with it. Never too late for change and heal.

Being a long time swirler and was married to a DBR bm due to poorly vetting skills, I know what I'm talking about.  Truth do set you  free but the truth hurts  like hell!!! Lies are pretty, sugar coated to make you feel comfortable, stay in your place and never question the alternative.

Also read about the online players; Online dating is great but they're are cyber players.  I have 'met' a couple and wasn't worth my time.  Take the time to screen  BW/WM IR chat rooms and social pages carefully. I have deleted myself from at least 5 this year do to DBR's and attacking on bw's.  Do not be fooled with the wigger types either. If you wanted to date a wigger then why not a black man? I never was and remotely attracted  to wiggers, Yep I said it "Wiggers!" Until one time after a bad breakup, I've gotten with a wigger (rebound) and it's the worse.  Any DBR non-black man that wants to act with swag, hip-hop, gangstaish, thuggish, a member of the ABC crew and tries to "fit" into so called black culture , trying to "holla at a sista" you need to send his ass packin back to Blackistan.   If you want to do the wigger types be my guest, because I do not support those guys  in  any fashion. <-----My skin crawled.

Anyhoos, its time for me to leave for work!

Have a wonderful safe and blessed week!!!

Alphas & Betas in my soup?

I have a long weekend ahead of me and I know Sunday night I'm not going to do ANYTHING!
Labor Day is around the corner. I might go to Hobby Lobby and purchase some fabric to take a stab at making a blazer for the fall.

Do you know the difference in Alpha and Beta males?

In the existence of mankind, the male species hunt, gathered and protected his family from all harms. He knows how to take charge and own it. Very responsible of his actions, well though-out through his peers, community and family. Alphas & Betas are strong in the retrospect of the male. You many have came across an Alpha being extremely charming, take charge, slightly arrogant and magnetic. The Beta is intelligent, friendly, take charge and someone you can open your emotions too. To put it in a simpler sense, the Alpha is the school quarterback and the Beta is the nerd. Nothing wrong with pining for these types when you find great qualities within. But there's another one, the Loser-Beta that is a poser for the "Alpha Male" breaking it down as the Damage Beyond Repair man or DBR.

This article explains it ALL! Much props to Toni for this article. :)

http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/return-of-the-beta-disguised-as-alpha-a-word-on-passive-aggressive-losers/

Yes, I WAS married to a passive aggressive loser tries to disguise himself as an Alpha male. I'm not cringing because I've been over it but as a warning to bw's that are finding love & marriage, rely on your intuition and ALWAYS use those VETTING SKILLS! You may know some in your family, work, friends, friends of friends, neighbor and so on. They will do anything to make you feel so good inside and out but when it comes times for the REALNESS, they will put you down without a notice. The ex-husband had a GOOD front, I mean perfectly crafted! They will do stuff in the beginning to SHOW you that they're a great catch but after trapping you, that's where the REAL HORROR HOUSE FUN STARTS! The image of Pennywise is well fitted. Genius! :)

 DBR's & losers are incapable of loving a woman, showing affection, being fathers & husbands, irresponsible and cannot manifest the fact that they're grown adult men. Grown adult men who have common sense, intelligence and know themselves will and NOT devolve in this type of behavior. They know its toxic, not worth the time and not programmed into them in any shape, fashion, form and idea. They also do not beat on their chest, sizing up a man, woman or child AND THE WORLD, broadcasting "I'm a good man! I got a penis and two balls and some hair surrounding that area."

 Narcissism is the most foul creature that walks the earth today. This creature can wreck havoc among others. I remember an argument during my marriage with the ex husband and in the mist, I called him a narcissist, egotistical shithead without the common knowledge of knowing his ass from the hole in the ground. Dumbfounded by this new drop in vocabulary and the meaning, hence he didn't pay attention in high school English class, he stopped dead in his tracks and asked me what did that mean? I watched Narcissism and him having a deep conversation.

Narcissism: "OH SHIT!!, she founded us out!"
Ex hub: (scratching his head nervously) "WHAT WE GONNA DO!!!!"
Narcissism: "QUICK! I have came up with a crafty plan, play dumb!"
Ex hub: (frantically searching for a object to fixate to avoid her stares) "I already did that! Come on! You can do better. Knowing her she already figured us out a year ago."
Narcissism: " I guess we leave and drink Jim Beam over our cousin's house. That escape route usually works and we can cuss her out, throw stuff at her and come back later. Blame Fox News and the economy for why we can't do better, be a family man, and there for the children. Oh yeah and the house is haunted, the reason why we stay up late watching T.O and Ochocinco. DAYUM!! that Mezkin chick is FIIOOONNEEE!!"
Ex hub: "Thanks pal! You're a lifesaver!"
Narcissism: "No prob, we in this together,FOREVER!" (invisible daps.)


You can see that the passive aggressive losers is a void draining your well-being, time, mentality and life. I threw my trash away long ago & wised up. My well being shot up A LOT! Only thing, I deal with through him is our son. 99% of whatever he says is crap that's extremely ignored and 1% he is serious about our son. I recognize these types of DBR's and losers and RUN away like Flo Jo but its up to YOU to hone those vetting skills and use them wisely.

"It" still scares me.

Happy Labor Day everyone!!!!

Another one bites the dust......

This week have been hectic due to kids going back to school, work and all other junk but I'm taking it easy because I'm not going to push myself hard because I have to take care of myself.

Another one bites the dust:

I've corresponded with a guy in my area for a whole week. On one dating site, he contacted me and let me know that my profile is 99% compatible with him. Funny, intelligent and friendly, we hit it off until it was time to meet face to face. Welp, he blew me off. The first thing is that he wasn't interested in the first place and putting on a front. Two, I think the whole thing about dating another woman from a different culture other than his and Asian gave him cold feet because that SHIT got real as hell. And third, he's an asshole. To write people off and never explain why, shows how much he has respect for women in general. His lost not mine. I politely wrote to him that is a sign of disrespect not to show consideration to the other person's time. I deleted his number and email all together. You can say, the Creator is watching carefully over me. Understanding this, I'm better off and not finding disappointment down the road.
Though he's Buddhist, I guess Buddha isn't gonna bless him anytime soon. LOL.

When you have DBR's and doubters and such, shut the door forever. They have no VALUE whatsoever to a woman. Being raised and living in the South, we run into those so much that it shuts us down, where we become the DOUBTERS in ourselves. What I mean by that, is we doubt, am I pretty enough? did I say something wrong? is he attracted to me? why did he do that? The list goes on and on. That's why self-esteem is important!!! High self-esteem will kick in to tell you that you're not ugly,fat, crazy or whatever. High self-esteem will zone in to let yourself know that you are you and that you're created in a highly manner that separates you from others. Individualism stands out better than cookie cutter people. Knowing yourself worth will attract a QLL man that KNOWS he's doing GOOD for himself. He wouldn't care what people think about, he knows that he with the most gorgeous, loving, caring woman on the whole planet and nothing else matters. Being yourself around your family, friends, associates and the world will attract people that can ACTUALLY SEE that you're human.

http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/news-feed/stupid-study-why-black-women-are-fatter-dumber-more-manly-and-less-attractive-than-others/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+TheBlackGirlsGuideToWeightLoss+%28A+Black+Girl%27s+Guide+To+Weight+Loss%29&utm_content=FaceBook

This "person" went all through the motions of "careful" research to once again, put the black woman under a microscope and find everything wrong with her. This makes me laugh to the FULLEST! Instead of finding common DNA strains that causes cancer,AIDS and other life-threatening diseases to help EVERYONE, he simply took a dumbass chances to post stupidity. Folks, this man is a moron and there are morons who are going to read this and RUN WITH IT! This is a naysayer, doubter, woman hater and racist DBR man. Inflicted his small minded stupidity into a "intelligent" article because he's part of the science world. Bah! Really? Mighty strange that most bw's are educated, intelligent, beautiful, accomplished, marrying wm/non-black men from different cultures, and living well. All I gotta say: Black women keep it up! Laugh freely and prove these people wrong without explain a DAMN thing. These people do not know you on a daily basis and keep REACHING into the abyss to put you down. When you make people mad like this, they will come up with EVERY AMMUNITION to shoot you down.

My Southern Black women, continue to do EVERYTHING freely! Yeah those who are still trying to rehash the Ghosts of the South, will and ALWAYS fail miserably since the Civil War. Not only those who are soooo proud of the South( proud of the wrong things) but those DBR bm that keeps that invisible shackle to remind you of those ghosts.

Last time I checked, dead people stay forever in the grave.

Dating websites and SUPPORT bw's.

How many of you guys are on dating websites? Two? Five? or none? I'm on a couple myself. I've joined Match.com last month and suffice to say, a wink and two emails. I don't give up easily and knowing there's someone out there for me. But why so hard?

Maybe because someone whispered negative remarks and tortes to wm/nonblack men about black women? Maybe some have diaherra of the mouth when it comes to opening up the conversation? or none of the above.

I take this into consideration that it's kinda hard to date but being optimistic about dating and such is no brainer. For one, I'm getting back into the dating world and ready to have fun and later a relationship down the road with a QLL man. Just one MAN not a lot. Two, I've opened myself, not being a mystery about who I am but a fun, loving, honest WOMAN. Not just a "black" woman but a WOMAN! Which comes into the term of "preference." I've always been an open minded, loving and joyful individual but you have those who can't see this due to society's views on bw's.

My preference is a man who have great qualities about themselves. I have no quarrels about what culture they're from. I love a good looking man no doubt from every part of the world but the getting to the nitty gritty is how that man is going to treat you and cherish you in his lifetime. Well all have our pet peeves, idiosyncrasies, turn on's and off's but what's the core of wanting a quality person in your life?

For all my country bw's that live in rural areas, it does seem that we've are at the end of the brick road. But we're not. Gotta take chances and risks, smart one at that to let your light shine. Some of you may complain about Tyrone and Jamal not acting right but Tyrone and Jamal isn't thinking about you. Which leads to this the other night on a Facebook social group that I've joined.


SUPPORT SUPPORT YOUR FELLOW BW!!

A young lady posted a comment that was made by a DBR bm about her preference. Point blank, he said as I remember " They brainwashed you to think that a white man will love you and white men are wimps to deal with black women." An appalling comment and few seconds later while listening to Ellie Goulding, I had to come in and support my fellow bw about this "poison." And what poison indeed. She's in a relationship with a wm and have a child but for a DBR bm to say this to her, he doesn't know her and trolling, trying to tear her spirit. She reported him and they deleted his account. AWESOME! But the mainly, the emotional helpful support from US, black women to pick our sister up. Even the white men in the group supported HER! The sting of this jr. high remedial moron still injected his venom into this woman. Unaware, unannounced, he struck her like a snake. I urge for my beautiful black women not to indulged into conversations with men of this nature. He was pissed because he felt, her being a black woman that he can do whatever and say whatever to her. True there are black men that have great upstanding raising and respectful and WILL defend black women when being attacked, critiqued and criticized. I applauded these men to the upmost because they know this AND SUPPOSE TO DO THIS. But there are damaged, broken men who will do their best to stamp out our spirit. For what? To see if there's a "loyal sista" that will do and bend over backwards for a "brotha." I don't see too many "brothas" that are protecting black women. Have you seen a bm that's going out with a ww/hw/aw showing her off proudly? And then when you're dating your wm/nonblack man showing you off proudly, the bm have steam come out of their ears? Because you're dating a man whom chose YOU and not a brotha? Hmmmmmm.... Seems he have a problem with you and you not having a problem with him. That's ass backwards. So if you have an aunt, sister, cousin, a friend, mom or even you who dates IR or in a relationship, support her. She gonna catch flack for it but be there for her. When you have the love and support from a stable emotional group, the outlook is better and you're going to excel. One cannot save everybody but as a team, we can build that network, STRONG network where nothing can harm us in any fashion, idea or form.

So next time when Tyrone and Jamal, trying to put pressure on you on why you're not attracted to him, don't argue with the fool, tell him ONE TIME and RUN like the wind. Cuz they want a jr. high kiddie fight with you. Digress in this, you will LOSE and cut your LIFEFORCE down to a trickle.

Busy Busy Busy!

Since my first post back in April I have been extremely busy!

Rearranging my school schedule which to the point of withdrawing this month so I can go to a public university, hence less money to spend and affordable for me to finish up my degree.

Taking a break, going to Rammstein concert in May, FUN FUN FUN!!

Focusing on "me" so I can be a better person and parent to my children.
Taking different interests & hobbies to see what fits and stick to them.

Alas, I have been emailing and video chatting to a guy that lives in Ireland, yes he's cute and yes very interesting indeed! :)

Though I am busy, I manage to have 2 months off from my current job and work my other job on weekends. Engaging myself in different interests, raising my children, school and other aspects that shows enrichment my life.

This past Saturday, I worked and suppose to meet up with a fellow that's in my area for drinks and meetup. Give you a backstory, we've interacted on a dating site, called each other, text and arranged a meet up of bike riding in the park after I gotten back from Dallas. Mine you, he's single and have a child. So that arrangement fell out and I went to a local RenFaire and met some wonderful people from Canada.
Fast forward... Thursday he text me and wanted to do another meet up. Ok??
I let him know what time I got off work and meet me at a local bar in our town.
The Spidey-sense told me to invite a coworker just in case another "empty" promise came about.

Around 8:20 pm I called and spoke to see if he was coming, nope because he couldn't find a sitter, BUUTTTTTT he can "meet" me somewhere but not in public. HA! I said "okay talk to you later!" hung the phone up quick. I called up my co-worker and said "AT tha bar gurrlll, roll tide!!" lol. I had fun choppin' it up and being social. She's a hoot and a half. I didn't let that phase me from what this "moron" said to me earlier.

So what's the point of this story? A stupid guy that have issues. A woman that want to have fun and offers the best within herself, decides to just let this go because she felt that the guy isn't serious and probably want sex. Oh yes he's white but in relativity if he was black, he STILL gotten the same cold shoulder that I gave that guy. If you recognize there's no difference in any color & culture of men that do this and figured it out with common sense then you're on the money. If you didn't then you need to figure out more than just this. Its nothing but the same ol thing that happens when you're dating. You get flaky guys, crappy guys, no type of committing to a thing guys but wanna meet up for "personal" dick reasons. Sometimes you get stood up for nothing. Don't take it personal because there's a slew of great guys out there in the WORLD that love to be in the presence of YOU!

If the guy have kids, he would have taken the time to find a babysitter, paid them and met up with you because he WOULD be interested in you on a different level than sex. For the women who have children, if asked out, did you or not take the time to find a sitter to watch your children for 2-3 hours to socialize with the opposite sex? So if they couldn't find one do they call YOU back and (if lying or not) tell you and reschedule? I know a mature adult would.

The outcome: I texted him to let him know, this is the 2nd meet up that have failed again, never to text or try to set anything up and hopes that he find the right person & good luck. I've never met him in person and truly I'm glad I didn't. I didn't go "BLACK" LOL on him either. Because that's stupid and doesn't solve the issue. I've shown him that I'm a lady no matter if he was too ashamed to be seen in public and I don't do those guys, in no shape,fashion or form. I have much MAD respectfor myself to let a "suckabusta" get me down in dating and love. Always have faith, friends and support no matter what in ALL aspects in your life.

Some of you ladies may have experiences this with a wm and gotten sour to the fact of dating globally but if you went back to bm just because of this and still getting the SAME amount of treatment & EXCUSES from Tyrone, Isaiah and them, 3 am booty calls?, I'm tired can we eat at your place?, I don't feel like going to the movies, let watch some at my house, Umm whenever you can stop by my house after dark or whatever the case, YOU STILL GETTING THE FUNKY TREATMENT! Because Tyrone, Isaiah, Todd,Jeff THINK ALIKE! Only thing different is pigment and names but these DBR (damage beyond repair) men, if you let them in, they WILL wreck your mentality. Don't let them IN under NO circumstances and STAY AWAY FROM THEM! Yep they do pop up every once in a while but always be on the lookout and RECOGNIZE these behaviors from these men.

Oh yeah the cute,sexy interesting pen pal from Ireland is funny. He keeps me cracking up whenever we chat. You can say I met him on "accident" on a dating site where I blog. He commented on a blog about "Dating: Is the Penis pic the new FACE of Dating?" Writing out his opinion about the situation, he felt that some social pressure of dating from men and women is off kilter and some getting backwards about themselves in attracting a person using genitalia pictures. He did make a valid point about that and I emailed him privately. We kid about that subject but in respect he like my sense of humor. We've been at it for 7 weeks now and every time he emails. I even talked to him video chatting on computers. My my I said, handsome, have moral are similar to mine, raising and have common sense. He and I always keep an open-mind mind about ourselves and the views of the world. Yeah, I geeked out a bit in my pink doo rag but we've video chatted for 3 hours. He didn't care how I looked too. That's refreshing. I came home from work and gotten into my relaxing clothes and sleeping do rag.Shows that he was interested in me and not the way how I looked after work. And kept a smile on my face when we talked. Though the audio is a bit off and him being 6 hours away, we still kept the conversation flowing. He's tha coolest!!

Ladies that live in the Southern region, keep an open mind about love and dating. If you find one overseas, in your back yard or a state away. Keep finding things about him to see if the compatibility is right or lacking. Doesn't take a genius but the "know it" of yourself in what you want out of a potential partner. 1 out 3 isn't going to cut it. You want 3 out of 3 or more in what you want in a partner that going to love all of you. I'm still on "stumbling" mode. I haven't went out on a date yet due because I've had 3 guys that flaked out on me. Doesn't stop me from my goals. Sure its tough, I rather stick to my moral compass, rather than let it go and joining in with people that complain, get hurt and take any fly by night guy just because of loneliness. I am alone but making sure that I have hobbies and social things to keep a float, rather than focus on bullshit called DRAMA. That's why I have zero drama. I don't want drama to keep me in the loop with friends every 2-3 months on why this guy isn't what I thought blah blah blah..They feel sorry for me, I put it on my Facebook status, keep changing my status to "relationship" to "single" about every 3-6 months. Does that sound familiar? Do you have a friend or yourself that does this on Facebook/ Twitter/other social medias? Seems like folks aren't happy about anything. Publishing to the whole world about how crappy this guy is. Hell! You picked him!! Most of the time, your so called friends are laughing it up because of your misfortunes of picking the wrong man. They're labeling you as we speak if you do this. Not a great look and they will keep on laughing if you shut up about your "relationship" problems. Only YOU can change your situation, if you want it.

Quality doesn't come at the Dollar Store for cheap only Quantity.

Take example of fine china, expensive, hand crafted, limited editions of being made, last longer and is passed down to generation to generation. Why is it made to last longer? Why the people take the best of the best with excellent talent to make these? Why the price expensive? Because of the hours, patience, time and quality is INVESTED! Why not INVESTED in QUALITY? Quality is better in the long run and last forever when taken care of by the right person that understands. So when investing in quality, your making the right choice in a person for longer lasting loving relationship and passing it down to your children for them to invest in quality.
Does that make sense?
Well I'm about to jet and do some homework its 7:10am. A Happy Birthday to my mother that passed 11 years ago. She'll be 52 this year if living.

I hope everyone have a wonderful summer and stay blessed!!