Another one bites the dust......

This week have been hectic due to kids going back to school, work and all other junk but I'm taking it easy because I'm not going to push myself hard because I have to take care of myself.

Another one bites the dust:

I've corresponded with a guy in my area for a whole week. On one dating site, he contacted me and let me know that my profile is 99% compatible with him. Funny, intelligent and friendly, we hit it off until it was time to meet face to face. Welp, he blew me off. The first thing is that he wasn't interested in the first place and putting on a front. Two, I think the whole thing about dating another woman from a different culture other than his and Asian gave him cold feet because that SHIT got real as hell. And third, he's an asshole. To write people off and never explain why, shows how much he has respect for women in general. His lost not mine. I politely wrote to him that is a sign of disrespect not to show consideration to the other person's time. I deleted his number and email all together. You can say, the Creator is watching carefully over me. Understanding this, I'm better off and not finding disappointment down the road.
Though he's Buddhist, I guess Buddha isn't gonna bless him anytime soon. LOL.

When you have DBR's and doubters and such, shut the door forever. They have no VALUE whatsoever to a woman. Being raised and living in the South, we run into those so much that it shuts us down, where we become the DOUBTERS in ourselves. What I mean by that, is we doubt, am I pretty enough? did I say something wrong? is he attracted to me? why did he do that? The list goes on and on. That's why self-esteem is important!!! High self-esteem will kick in to tell you that you're not ugly,fat, crazy or whatever. High self-esteem will zone in to let yourself know that you are you and that you're created in a highly manner that separates you from others. Individualism stands out better than cookie cutter people. Knowing yourself worth will attract a QLL man that KNOWS he's doing GOOD for himself. He wouldn't care what people think about, he knows that he with the most gorgeous, loving, caring woman on the whole planet and nothing else matters. Being yourself around your family, friends, associates and the world will attract people that can ACTUALLY SEE that you're human.

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This "person" went all through the motions of "careful" research to once again, put the black woman under a microscope and find everything wrong with her. This makes me laugh to the FULLEST! Instead of finding common DNA strains that causes cancer,AIDS and other life-threatening diseases to help EVERYONE, he simply took a dumbass chances to post stupidity. Folks, this man is a moron and there are morons who are going to read this and RUN WITH IT! This is a naysayer, doubter, woman hater and racist DBR man. Inflicted his small minded stupidity into a "intelligent" article because he's part of the science world. Bah! Really? Mighty strange that most bw's are educated, intelligent, beautiful, accomplished, marrying wm/non-black men from different cultures, and living well. All I gotta say: Black women keep it up! Laugh freely and prove these people wrong without explain a DAMN thing. These people do not know you on a daily basis and keep REACHING into the abyss to put you down. When you make people mad like this, they will come up with EVERY AMMUNITION to shoot you down.

My Southern Black women, continue to do EVERYTHING freely! Yeah those who are still trying to rehash the Ghosts of the South, will and ALWAYS fail miserably since the Civil War. Not only those who are soooo proud of the South( proud of the wrong things) but those DBR bm that keeps that invisible shackle to remind you of those ghosts.

Last time I checked, dead people stay forever in the grave.

Dating websites and SUPPORT bw's.

How many of you guys are on dating websites? Two? Five? or none? I'm on a couple myself. I've joined Match.com last month and suffice to say, a wink and two emails. I don't give up easily and knowing there's someone out there for me. But why so hard?

Maybe because someone whispered negative remarks and tortes to wm/nonblack men about black women? Maybe some have diaherra of the mouth when it comes to opening up the conversation? or none of the above.

I take this into consideration that it's kinda hard to date but being optimistic about dating and such is no brainer. For one, I'm getting back into the dating world and ready to have fun and later a relationship down the road with a QLL man. Just one MAN not a lot. Two, I've opened myself, not being a mystery about who I am but a fun, loving, honest WOMAN. Not just a "black" woman but a WOMAN! Which comes into the term of "preference." I've always been an open minded, loving and joyful individual but you have those who can't see this due to society's views on bw's.

My preference is a man who have great qualities about themselves. I have no quarrels about what culture they're from. I love a good looking man no doubt from every part of the world but the getting to the nitty gritty is how that man is going to treat you and cherish you in his lifetime. Well all have our pet peeves, idiosyncrasies, turn on's and off's but what's the core of wanting a quality person in your life?

For all my country bw's that live in rural areas, it does seem that we've are at the end of the brick road. But we're not. Gotta take chances and risks, smart one at that to let your light shine. Some of you may complain about Tyrone and Jamal not acting right but Tyrone and Jamal isn't thinking about you. Which leads to this the other night on a Facebook social group that I've joined.


SUPPORT SUPPORT YOUR FELLOW BW!!

A young lady posted a comment that was made by a DBR bm about her preference. Point blank, he said as I remember " They brainwashed you to think that a white man will love you and white men are wimps to deal with black women." An appalling comment and few seconds later while listening to Ellie Goulding, I had to come in and support my fellow bw about this "poison." And what poison indeed. She's in a relationship with a wm and have a child but for a DBR bm to say this to her, he doesn't know her and trolling, trying to tear her spirit. She reported him and they deleted his account. AWESOME! But the mainly, the emotional helpful support from US, black women to pick our sister up. Even the white men in the group supported HER! The sting of this jr. high remedial moron still injected his venom into this woman. Unaware, unannounced, he struck her like a snake. I urge for my beautiful black women not to indulged into conversations with men of this nature. He was pissed because he felt, her being a black woman that he can do whatever and say whatever to her. True there are black men that have great upstanding raising and respectful and WILL defend black women when being attacked, critiqued and criticized. I applauded these men to the upmost because they know this AND SUPPOSE TO DO THIS. But there are damaged, broken men who will do their best to stamp out our spirit. For what? To see if there's a "loyal sista" that will do and bend over backwards for a "brotha." I don't see too many "brothas" that are protecting black women. Have you seen a bm that's going out with a ww/hw/aw showing her off proudly? And then when you're dating your wm/nonblack man showing you off proudly, the bm have steam come out of their ears? Because you're dating a man whom chose YOU and not a brotha? Hmmmmmm.... Seems he have a problem with you and you not having a problem with him. That's ass backwards. So if you have an aunt, sister, cousin, a friend, mom or even you who dates IR or in a relationship, support her. She gonna catch flack for it but be there for her. When you have the love and support from a stable emotional group, the outlook is better and you're going to excel. One cannot save everybody but as a team, we can build that network, STRONG network where nothing can harm us in any fashion, idea or form.

So next time when Tyrone and Jamal, trying to put pressure on you on why you're not attracted to him, don't argue with the fool, tell him ONE TIME and RUN like the wind. Cuz they want a jr. high kiddie fight with you. Digress in this, you will LOSE and cut your LIFEFORCE down to a trickle.