Busy Busy Busy!

Since my first post back in April I have been extremely busy!

Rearranging my school schedule which to the point of withdrawing this month so I can go to a public university, hence less money to spend and affordable for me to finish up my degree.

Taking a break, going to Rammstein concert in May, FUN FUN FUN!!

Focusing on "me" so I can be a better person and parent to my children.
Taking different interests & hobbies to see what fits and stick to them.

Alas, I have been emailing and video chatting to a guy that lives in Ireland, yes he's cute and yes very interesting indeed! :)

Though I am busy, I manage to have 2 months off from my current job and work my other job on weekends. Engaging myself in different interests, raising my children, school and other aspects that shows enrichment my life.

This past Saturday, I worked and suppose to meet up with a fellow that's in my area for drinks and meetup. Give you a backstory, we've interacted on a dating site, called each other, text and arranged a meet up of bike riding in the park after I gotten back from Dallas. Mine you, he's single and have a child. So that arrangement fell out and I went to a local RenFaire and met some wonderful people from Canada.
Fast forward... Thursday he text me and wanted to do another meet up. Ok??
I let him know what time I got off work and meet me at a local bar in our town.
The Spidey-sense told me to invite a coworker just in case another "empty" promise came about.

Around 8:20 pm I called and spoke to see if he was coming, nope because he couldn't find a sitter, BUUTTTTTT he can "meet" me somewhere but not in public. HA! I said "okay talk to you later!" hung the phone up quick. I called up my co-worker and said "AT tha bar gurrlll, roll tide!!" lol. I had fun choppin' it up and being social. She's a hoot and a half. I didn't let that phase me from what this "moron" said to me earlier.

So what's the point of this story? A stupid guy that have issues. A woman that want to have fun and offers the best within herself, decides to just let this go because she felt that the guy isn't serious and probably want sex. Oh yes he's white but in relativity if he was black, he STILL gotten the same cold shoulder that I gave that guy. If you recognize there's no difference in any color & culture of men that do this and figured it out with common sense then you're on the money. If you didn't then you need to figure out more than just this. Its nothing but the same ol thing that happens when you're dating. You get flaky guys, crappy guys, no type of committing to a thing guys but wanna meet up for "personal" dick reasons. Sometimes you get stood up for nothing. Don't take it personal because there's a slew of great guys out there in the WORLD that love to be in the presence of YOU!

If the guy have kids, he would have taken the time to find a babysitter, paid them and met up with you because he WOULD be interested in you on a different level than sex. For the women who have children, if asked out, did you or not take the time to find a sitter to watch your children for 2-3 hours to socialize with the opposite sex? So if they couldn't find one do they call YOU back and (if lying or not) tell you and reschedule? I know a mature adult would.

The outcome: I texted him to let him know, this is the 2nd meet up that have failed again, never to text or try to set anything up and hopes that he find the right person & good luck. I've never met him in person and truly I'm glad I didn't. I didn't go "BLACK" LOL on him either. Because that's stupid and doesn't solve the issue. I've shown him that I'm a lady no matter if he was too ashamed to be seen in public and I don't do those guys, in no shape,fashion or form. I have much MAD respectfor myself to let a "suckabusta" get me down in dating and love. Always have faith, friends and support no matter what in ALL aspects in your life.

Some of you ladies may have experiences this with a wm and gotten sour to the fact of dating globally but if you went back to bm just because of this and still getting the SAME amount of treatment & EXCUSES from Tyrone, Isaiah and them, 3 am booty calls?, I'm tired can we eat at your place?, I don't feel like going to the movies, let watch some at my house, Umm whenever you can stop by my house after dark or whatever the case, YOU STILL GETTING THE FUNKY TREATMENT! Because Tyrone, Isaiah, Todd,Jeff THINK ALIKE! Only thing different is pigment and names but these DBR (damage beyond repair) men, if you let them in, they WILL wreck your mentality. Don't let them IN under NO circumstances and STAY AWAY FROM THEM! Yep they do pop up every once in a while but always be on the lookout and RECOGNIZE these behaviors from these men.

Oh yeah the cute,sexy interesting pen pal from Ireland is funny. He keeps me cracking up whenever we chat. You can say I met him on "accident" on a dating site where I blog. He commented on a blog about "Dating: Is the Penis pic the new FACE of Dating?" Writing out his opinion about the situation, he felt that some social pressure of dating from men and women is off kilter and some getting backwards about themselves in attracting a person using genitalia pictures. He did make a valid point about that and I emailed him privately. We kid about that subject but in respect he like my sense of humor. We've been at it for 7 weeks now and every time he emails. I even talked to him video chatting on computers. My my I said, handsome, have moral are similar to mine, raising and have common sense. He and I always keep an open-mind mind about ourselves and the views of the world. Yeah, I geeked out a bit in my pink doo rag but we've video chatted for 3 hours. He didn't care how I looked too. That's refreshing. I came home from work and gotten into my relaxing clothes and sleeping do rag.Shows that he was interested in me and not the way how I looked after work. And kept a smile on my face when we talked. Though the audio is a bit off and him being 6 hours away, we still kept the conversation flowing. He's tha coolest!!

Ladies that live in the Southern region, keep an open mind about love and dating. If you find one overseas, in your back yard or a state away. Keep finding things about him to see if the compatibility is right or lacking. Doesn't take a genius but the "know it" of yourself in what you want out of a potential partner. 1 out 3 isn't going to cut it. You want 3 out of 3 or more in what you want in a partner that going to love all of you. I'm still on "stumbling" mode. I haven't went out on a date yet due because I've had 3 guys that flaked out on me. Doesn't stop me from my goals. Sure its tough, I rather stick to my moral compass, rather than let it go and joining in with people that complain, get hurt and take any fly by night guy just because of loneliness. I am alone but making sure that I have hobbies and social things to keep a float, rather than focus on bullshit called DRAMA. That's why I have zero drama. I don't want drama to keep me in the loop with friends every 2-3 months on why this guy isn't what I thought blah blah blah..They feel sorry for me, I put it on my Facebook status, keep changing my status to "relationship" to "single" about every 3-6 months. Does that sound familiar? Do you have a friend or yourself that does this on Facebook/ Twitter/other social medias? Seems like folks aren't happy about anything. Publishing to the whole world about how crappy this guy is. Hell! You picked him!! Most of the time, your so called friends are laughing it up because of your misfortunes of picking the wrong man. They're labeling you as we speak if you do this. Not a great look and they will keep on laughing if you shut up about your "relationship" problems. Only YOU can change your situation, if you want it.

Quality doesn't come at the Dollar Store for cheap only Quantity.

Take example of fine china, expensive, hand crafted, limited editions of being made, last longer and is passed down to generation to generation. Why is it made to last longer? Why the people take the best of the best with excellent talent to make these? Why the price expensive? Because of the hours, patience, time and quality is INVESTED! Why not INVESTED in QUALITY? Quality is better in the long run and last forever when taken care of by the right person that understands. So when investing in quality, your making the right choice in a person for longer lasting loving relationship and passing it down to your children for them to invest in quality.
Does that make sense?
Well I'm about to jet and do some homework its 7:10am. A Happy Birthday to my mother that passed 11 years ago. She'll be 52 this year if living.

I hope everyone have a wonderful summer and stay blessed!!